Superman Was Adopted Too
CPS/agency visits can be so scary for kids (and foster parents). You never know what they’ll say or find as they examine your home. You want these visits to go well yet it’s hard when the kids are hiding under the bed. These case workers/managers could be Santa Claus and your kiddos will still remember that people like these are the ones who took them away from their old life. The fear is palpable and infectious.
Superhero masks and capes. A simple solution to a big problem. What you read here is the email I sent to Melissa & Doug Toys in December 2017 to say thank you. I don’t know if they ever got the email but I still appreciate their recognition that all kids want/need to know they can be brave and just as strong as Superman. Who, by the way, is a perfect example of a successful adoption. Superman/Clark Kent cared for and loved both parts of who he was and where he came from. It gives us- the Jonathan and Martha Kents of the world hope.
Dear Doug and Melissa,
I am a brand new mom to two foster children- a girl, age three, and her four year old brother. I’m 38 years old and becoming a parent to two adventurous toddlers has been it’s own adventure. I’m learning about puzzles and playtime right along with them. In fact, we’re about to celebrate their very first Christmas ever this year. They’d never heard of Santa, Baby Jesus or gift-giving before and their excitement is contagious.
Before I turn my attention to the final gift wrapping and try my hand at Christmas cookie decorating, I am reaching out to you today to express my deepest gratitude for the unwitting role you just played in our lives.
My husband and I are working towards adoption and had our first official CPS (Child Protective Services) adoption visit yesterday. This was a brand new caseworker come to interview us for the adoption and in the past, when a caseworker shows up the kids get scared and try to hide under their beds, the dining room table, behind our legs…really whatever’s closest and can conceal them. Even though they’ve been with us for a while now, their fear of being taken away runs deep.
They always ask to put on their Halloween costumes during these visits and just this week as we prepared for this oh-so important visit-it finally dawned on me why. Much like Dumbo and his iconic feather, their fairy princess and Ninja-saurus costumes make them feel brave. It also allows them to hide in plain site. The outfits are a lot of work, though, to put on and it can be distracting/chaotic to have a Dinosaur Ninja karate chopping at your legs while you’re trying to advocate for their future.
So on Tuesday, I went searching for a simple super hero cape and mask. Turns out, they are harder to find than you’d think. I hit up four toy stores with no luck and was seriously contemplating breaking out my seldom-used sewing machine and channeling my inner Martha Stewart when I found your suits at TJ Maxx. There were two left and they were PERFECT.
Yesterday, my kids became super heroes and they were brave. So brave. They didn’t run and hide. In fact, I told them the masks made them invisible until they were ready to be seen. The caseworker played along and it gave the kids the power to say when they were ready to talk and interact. The interview went really well and put us one step closer to becoming a forever family.
In addition, you may not have had this in mind when you designed the suits but because the suits are lightweight the kids weren’t sweating profusely as they played and because the Velcro made it easy to put on, I wasn’t sweating profusely either. For that, I’ll be forever grateful.
I wish I could send you the picture I took of them but we’re not allowed to share their images until after the adoption. I’ll tell ya, though-they had the biggest grins on their masked faces and they each stood so tall and proud in their suit and cape. These suits freed them up to be able to focus on fun instead of their fates.
I know your mission is to Take Back Childhood but yesterday, you did even more than that. You helped give our children a future. God bless you and your team there.
From the bottom of our hearts, thank you!
Sean and Susie Spencer